Mind

10 Things NOT to Say to Someone Who is Struggling to Conceive …and What to Say Instead

February 11, 2017

When life is unfair, we seek comfort from the people who matter most in our lives. Having a strong support system is great, but sometimes the people we love most say stupid things that makes us want to punch them in the face.

When I was struggling to get pregnant, I was lucky to be surrounded by people who offered their support and encouragement, but I had my share of ouch-moments when hearing words like “maybe your IVF cycle didn’t work because you were too stressed.” Unfortunately, hurtful comments are more common than you’d think.

I decided to conduct my own research online by asking women struggling to conceive the question, “What are the most annoying comments you have ever received?” I was wowed when I received over 100 responses from women complaining about comments they hear on a daily basis that drive them crazy. Insensitive words came from their doctors, colleagues, friends, family, their own partners and even from other women in similar situations.

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Mind

Desire: The Fuel to Keep Going

February 1, 2017

We are creatures of desire. We want things and when we get them, we want more. Superficial wants aside, we all have authentic can’t-imagine-my-life-without-it wishes that are uniquely ours. Desires that we didn’t necessarily choose but are just a part of us. No matter how out of reach they may seem, or whether or not we decide to go for them, they follow us everywhere until they become our reality. I’ve always thought of humans as teeny tiny people in an infinite universe that’s so much bigger than our little brains could ever comprehend. The way I see it is, we’re all trying to figure out something that is unfigureoutable. I don’t try to understand it, but I choose to trust that things that happen in our lives are more than just a series of coincidences and our desires that are given to us are for a reason.

My sister is a marine biologist and she was born with an appreciation for animals like I’ve never seen before. As far back as I can remember, my brother was fascinated with planes and now he flies them. Unlike them, I’ve never had clear career goals, but I’ve always dreamed of a home packed with little ones. My siblings and I grew up together, but the lives we craved couldn’t be more different from each other and that’s got to mean something.

I can’t help but wonder that maybe the fact that my biggest dream turned out to be my hardest challenge isn’t a coincidence either. When I found out that baby-making would not come easy for my hubby and I, I knew I would do whatever it took to make it happen. But after every setback and failed fertility attempt, a part of me was always tempted to give up. Even though the road to my baby boy was the hardest thing I ever went through, my burning desire kept me going. Now, with a crazy appreciation for my little miracle, a big part of me wants to say one kid is enough (and for many it is), but my dream of having a big family far outweighs the fear of going through the messiness of infertility again.

Everyone has a different story, but by following the TTC (trying to conceive) community, what I found is we all share the same desire to bring new life into this world. The lengths we go through to be parents is nothing short of incredible. It’s also something to be proud of because not everyone has the courage to do whatever it takes to get what they want.

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Success Stories

Shilpa Patel’s Story

November 6, 2016

Without allowing a blocked fallopian tube get in her way, Shilpa Patel was determined to be a mom. The day after finding out that none of her embryos had reached the blastocyst stage on her second IVF cycle, she got a call that a late bloomer was going strong. Read her story here.

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Body

Cleansing Tea

November 4, 2016

In an effort to boost my fertility, my acupuncturist taught me about the importance of drinking hot lemon water everyday to cleanse my body. Since sipping on hot lemon water all day er’day gets boring, I like to jazz it up with healthy, flavorful ingredients, creating the perfect cleansing tea.

My fav tea is the kind you make yourself. I love scavenging through my pantry and fridge to find goodies to create my own tea blend. Lemon, Mint, Ginger and Cinnamon is my fav DIY tea because it’s fresh, soothing, and super frekin’ healthy… and it’s quick and easy to make.

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Success Stories

Stacey’s Story

October 30, 2016

With a collapsed fallopian tube and polycystic ovaries, Stacey knew from a young age that she would have problems conceiving. In the 10 years that followed, she went through several surgical procedures, two miscarriages and years of waiting for before trying IVF. Read her story here.

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Body

My Fertility Food Guide: The diet plan that helped balance my hormones

October 22, 2016

After two failed IVF cycles, I worked with Aina Zhang, a TMI specialist at Clinique Sinocare in Montreal. She gave me a lot of hope and reassured me that it was possible to boost my fertility naturally in order to greatly improve my chances of a successful IVF cycle.

After analyzing my situation, Aina concluded that my liver was begging for a much needed detox. I learned that lifestyle habits like diet, stress and the environment affect detox organs like our kidneys and liver. This puts a burden on baby making fundamentals like our hormones, ovulation and egg quality.

We know that everything in the body is connected, yet when something isn’t running smoothly, we tend to zoom in on the problem instead of taking a whole-body approach. Whether you are trying to get pregnant naturally or using assisted reproductive technology, I strongly believe that eating healthy can be extremely beneficial in helping to boost fertility.

Along with weekly acupuncture sessions and Chinese herbs, Aina put me on a diet to improve my liver function in order to cleanse my body, balance my hormones, improve my egg quality, and finally, ensure a healthy pregnancy. She told me to work with her for at least three months before continuing with fertility treatments. I ended up working with her for five months, and during that time my cycles became clock-work and my skin completely cleared up. But more importantly, my next IVF cycle was successful and for the first time, I found myself pregnant.

I want to share my fertility food guide, because I believe it was an important factor that contributed to my healthy pregnancy. 

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Success Stories

Lara’s Story

October 21, 2016

After being diagnosed with hypothalamic amenorrhea and failing to induce a period with hormone supplements, Lara found out that her and her husband were also dealing with male factor infertility. It took 3 IUI cycles and 3 IVF cycles until she finally got her baby bump. Read Lara’s story here.

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